Being considered a professional is important. But most of us are 'old' professionals, not old in age, but old in thinking style and approach to living. Old professionals separate science and spirit and think in terms of either/or - 'you're either for me, or against me.' New professionals connect science and spirit and think in both/and terms. Please read: The New Professionalism: Connecting Science and Spirit, available at www.WisdomAtWorkUSA.com.
Friday, October 26, 2012
Either/or Thinking Is THE Problem!
Either/or thinking and the competition that flows from it
are, in and of themselves, the problem.
Thinking that there are only
two sides to every story is very limiting. Not only does such thinking give
power to extremists by draining it from the center, it also leads to stagnation
and lack of growth.Polarization around either ‘X’ or ‘Y’, denies most of life in the center and deprives us of the
innovation and creativity vital to success.
Either/or polarization requiring people to take sides locks
individuals and whole societies into non-productive traditions and
orthodoxies.Either my way or the
highway!What about all the other ways,
all the other millions of possibilities? What if the blacksmiths, horse
breeders and saddle-makers had the power oil and coal companies have
today?We’d still be using horses
instead of horse power.
Either/or thinking and the competition that flows from it alone,
in and of themselves, keeps us from coming together and solving our problems.
Either/or thinking and the competition that flows from it alone, in and of
themselves, benefit the few at the expense of the many.
The decline of American power and the loss of the American
dream show us the limits of either/or,
win/lose thinking.The door opens
inward. If we want to see the American Dream restored, we’ve got to change how
we think. We’ve got to ease off either/or
thinking and the competition that flows from it, and switch to the more
inclusive, flexible both/and, win/win
thinking—the kind of thinking that says it’s not either my way or your
way, but both ways.Either/or thinking has a place, but not the dominant place it’s had
in the past. We and the planet simply can no longer afford it. We need everybody’s talents, skills and
cooperation. Turning people into either winners or losers deprives us of the
‘losers’’ talents and skills, and lately there seem to be more losers than
winners.We can’t afford that, it’s not
viable and it’s not working. Enough!
Can’t we take responsibility for how we think, what we
believe and how we see the world and try to think differently? The door opens
inward. Can’t we try both/and, win/win
thinking for a change? I think we can. After all, as Groucho said, “I love my
cigar, but I take it out of my mouth once in awhile!” And, consider this: If
you always do what you always did, you’ll always get what you always got! Enough!
The door opens inward. If you want things to be different, you be different. Quit looking out and blaming. Be the change you
want to see! Begin shifting from either/or,
win/lose thinking to both/and,
win/win thinking now.